Love yourself, you are worthy.
Have you ever felt yourself going into a downward spiral when looking at your life and comparing yourself to others?
I know it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparison and think that if we look a certain way, have certain accomplishments, talk a certain way, and the list goes on and on then we will fit the mark and be worthy of love.
Who made these rules anyway, that there has to be certain criteria to be “worthy of love”?
When feeling the spiral of negativity, comparison, and self-pity it is helpful to remember the truth. What is true?
The truth is everyone has some type of difficulty in life, nobody’s life is perfect. The truth is we don’t know anyone’s internal reality by what we see on the outside. When you step back and can see the truth that everyone has issues, you are offering yourself self-compassion. The next time you feel like you’re going into a negative spiral, I’d recommend the following. I’d like to suggest for you to pause, do some deep breathing, get grounded and ask yourself are these thoughts really true? The best we can do is pause, get into the present moment, calm our nervous system, and remember what is really true.
Is it true that you also have worth and unique talents? What do you bring to the table? In addition to getting into the present, what can we be thankful for right now? What is there to be thankful for in the upcoming future?
What about your identity? Is it true that you are loved because you are His? “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I dedicated you, a prophet to the nations I appointed you.” (Jer 1:5) “Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.” (Luke 12:7)
Jesus loves you, exactly as you are. He loved you from the womb, He knows everything about you, and has a distinct plan for your life! He created you, and the requirement to love you had nothing to do with accomplishments. He loves you because you are His.
Getting present, having self-compassion, remembering the truth, and cultivating gratitude are four tactics that are helpful when falling into a shame cycle of comparison.
Love yourself, you are worthy, and special, have unique gifts that only you can offer the world!
P.S., sometimes we forget these truths even after learning these tools, Don’t pick yourself apart for forgetting. If this is helpful read this as often as needed and don’t forget to love yourself!
